The Company We Keep

Alex Elle's radical guide to creating deeper connections

New York Times bestselling author Alex Elle imparts her wisdom on a daily basis to her 1.8 million Instagram followers. In her new book, Alex invites us to take an honest inventory of all relationships in our lives so we can all build 'winning circles' and evolve without limitations. 

‘This book is a gift for anyone ready to choose better, deeper connection’ - Jillian Turecki, author of It Begins With You

‘Thoughtful, grounding and deeply affirming’ - Candice Brathwaite, author of I Am Not Your Baby Mother

From New York Times bestselling author Alexandra Elle comes a radical call to reflect on our friendships, take ownership of our energy and live in our truth.

The Company We Keep reminds us that the people we surround ourselves with are not only mirrors, but key companions on the lifelong journey of healing, self-trust and belonging. Alex shares her unflinching journey of learning to stop abandoning herself in the name of loyalty and offers a clear and compassionate path to creating deeper connections.

In it, Alex invites us to be real about the friendships we nurture and the ones we outgrow, offering hard-won wisdom on:

• Recognising when people-pleasing and self-silencing have become a pattern
• Understanding that honesty – while sometimes painful – is a bridge to real intimacy or necessary endings
• Taking full responsibility for how we show up in our friendships and communities

• Letting go of the belief that we earn love by shrinking ourselves

The Company We Keep is not just about nurturing our most meaningful friendships – it’s about becoming a better friend to ourselves first.

‘In a time of increasing loneliness, this book provides a steady guide, teaching us how to foster closeness, show up intentionally, and genuinely care for the people in our lives’ Nedra Glover Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace